A Personal Letter from the owner, John Reeves, Sr.
Pre-planning your own funeral service "The Most Important Decision You May Not Make"
I have been in this industry since 1964 when I first went to work for my father's company. He was a very intelligent man. I recall him telling me of being a young man and having a job in New York City when the stock market crashed in 1929. Having been born August 8, 1907, he had graduated from high school in Waynesville, NC and then attended Rollins College on a scholarship for basketball and football. However, the story he told was that being in New York at such a youthful age had, early on, taught him one of the most valuable lessons of his life. That was "with all those people it taught him how insignificant he was in this world." I think we have all felt that way at some point in our lives. This may be to some a thought of feeling sorry for yourself. For others, it may be feelings of being lonely.
The fact of the matter is all one has to do is look at the cemeteries and the memorial gardens like Bellevue Memorial Gardens and what do you see? For fifty years of my life in the cemetery industry; what I see is not loneliness, what I see is love. When I talk to people about pre-planning, I get so many different attitudes. When I talk to young people- let's say young husbands and wives; what I usually see is that infatuation that caused them to want to be together in the first place. I see true love in its most beautiful time. Yes, I see two individuals that love each other so much that they would not want the other to be alone making the decision of burial, if something tragic caused one or the other to lose their life premature to the fulfillment of those dreams that young people have. We all aspire in our initial days of starting a life together of a long and productive life. Others I visited in my young years being in this industry, seem alone and unhappy. Some, usually the ones who had already attained that magical milestones of marriage, the 25th wedding anniversary, seemed at ease with each other and calm with their accomplishment and their life together. Some other's, usually the male, would tell me "oh" when I go they can just throw me into a ditch. They seem to have a level of low self esteem. The real fact of life, I have noticed, is when we lose the one we love, there is the most revealing evidence of true love on Earth. The flowers, the prayers, the hugs, the families getting together, many times to enjoy a meal and the fellowship with those who have the same desires for the family they have come to comfort. This is the showing of the most obvious example of true love and respect, the tears shed over the passing of someone important to them. A cemetery is not really a place at the end. It is a place in our lives where we realize the love we have had for someone we may never forget.
Pre-Need plannning for one's own funeral service, does so many loving things. It allows those who care about us to think of the love and the important things in that life may have produced children, grandchildren and the future existence of life. Pre-planning eliminates the burden and financial involvement of arranging and paying for the celebration of the life they have been a part of. Don't value that final celebration expense more than the celebration of a life well lived.
John Thomas Reeves, Sr.
Your host for the celebration of life